I am glad for the lesson I learnt yesterday. Embarrassing or not, am just glad I caught myself. So::::: Cougar duty is over.
You know how when you look at a river and a twig gets stuck on the river bank or on a stationary rock? The water keeps moving but the twig remains in place. Then along comes a bigger item and dislodges the twig and off it goes to join the flow. Aaaah! That's how I feel right now.
Here is the article that dislodged me:
LUST TO LOVE
Lust! A word loaded with all the wrong meanings! What is lust, really?
And how is it different from love? Put simply, lust is an energy that demands.
Love is an energy that gives. That’s all. Whenever we are asking, asking,
asking in our relationships, that is not love – it is lust. If we are driven by
fear or greed in a relationship, that relationship is driven by lust – whether
it is with our spouse, our boss or our child. Why do we have so many problems
in our relationships? A major reason is because we are lusting after approval
and attention. The bad part is that when others change their opinion of us we
suffer. It’s like we build a house of cards with approval certificates from
other people and it all comes tumbling down when others change their attitudes
towards us. These kind of relationships will only bring restlessness and
defensiveness about the qualities we think of as ourselves. What we need to do
is start expressing the natural love inside of us rather than lusting after the
want of attention from others. Basing ourselves on attention from others has
obvious drawbacks whereas opening the floodgates to flood the world with love
carries much more potential. The key for transforming our relationships from
lust to love is to approach each interaction with the attitude of giving.
Simply give, whatever the situation. Just go on adding to the lives of others.
This will open new dimensions in you and prove to others that they too can go
beyond the constraints and expectations of society. ~ Nithyananda Sangha